Pesronal Development tool: What else do you have in your cupboard?
A friend’s husband told me about a wonderful personal development this weekend. He introduced me to a great concept of “seeing what else you have in your cupboard”. For those of you that don’t know what this means, it’s all about choosing (or tweaking) how you respond to situations. Instead of reacting automatically, consciously choosing a more beneficial response.
How it works is when someone says or does something that you do not like and you feel yourself on the verge of the same old reaction, stop and have a rummage through what other responses you have in your cupboard. You must be conscious and prepared for a stretch of your imagination at first then view the trigger from that perspective. It’s a cool manifestations too as it changes how you look at something you are viewing negatively.
We’re all fairly familiar with the concept of taking responsibility for our lives but an area that quite often still needs work is taking responsibility for our emotions. It’s so easy to blame your Mum for always getting on your nerves or your partner for winding you up, but the truth is you are choosing to react to them in that way. If you want a different outcome from what you always get, have a look at what else you have in your cupboard. Changing your response changes your thoughts, the interaction and therefore the manifestation.
I’m actively working on acceptance and letting go of judgement, so this tool is a little blessing in disguise for me. Lately, I am aware that I am making judgements on people quickly only to find out that there’s so much more to them than my initial judgement. I am constantly eating my words and changing my mind about people and I think on some level it’s because I am now aware that I am being surprised. So this is definitely a growth tool and my kind of growth tool to, uncomplicated.
What’s ironic is the friend whose husband told me about this cupboard tool told me immediately after his wife and I had just completed an intensive course all about viewing situations from various perspectives - now that’s synchronicity and a message received loud and clear!
Looking at situations from different perspectives also brings increased problem solving ability. You open yourself up to more options to view a situation and therefore are more likely to resolve it.
It’s also great Law of Attraction and Deliberate Creation tool as once you start to view situations from a higher vibration place, you are allowing the natural abundance of the universe to flow to you. How awesome and what an easy tool!
The truth is you get what you expect, so if you are busy seeing the worst in people that’s all you will ever see. But if you have a rifle through the cupboard for another way to view the person or situation, you will find some truth from your new perspective.
Another friend has taken this one step further by deciding that whenever he makes a judgement on someone, he will try and look at them from the perspective of the opposite. For instance, if you meet someone you deem to be a selfish cow, view them from the perspective that they are a generous and warm person and see what happens. I suppose it’s probably the reason that 2 people’s opinions of the same person can differ so widely.
So readers, I challenge you to look and see what else is in your cupboard the next time a classic provocative situation arises and do yourself proud and pick something else. However, I must warn you sometimes the cupboard is bare!
In love, light and abundance x x x
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