Nourishment for your spiritual awakening

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Like many people, I was a long-time sufferer of guilt.  I felt guilty about everything and when I wasn’t feeling guilt I was so far the other way I lacked compassion.  Where was the middle ground? 

Recently a deep shift has cut a huge dent into my feelings of guilt, it honestly feels as if they have gone for good!  I’m finding myself in all these situations that would normally involve feelings of anxiety and guilt but instead I am simply accepting the situation for what it is.

Now, this is mega for me, this little motherf****r has been running riot in me for practically all my life and as much as I always wanted to lose it, I am shocked.  It’s like when you’ve always wanted something and then get so used to always wanting it and working on it that when you get it you kinda forget what you have been striving for. It’s like “Oh yeah, this is what I wanted and now I have it - WOW!”

Now, I have this laser sharp radar for guilt in others and can hear and sense it from within a 1,000 miles (slight exagerration!).  I can cut through all the surface waffle of someone’s speech and see that guilt is sitting at the root of their issue.  I’m on a quest to help people move past their guilt because when you do that, my God do certain manifestations start to pour in, it’s like a dam has been broken and allowed all the abundance that has been on the other side to flow through.

I don’t know how many parts this series will have, it honestly isn’t down to me. For now, I want to help people to get practical help on their feelings of guilt and losing them because honestly, it will transform your life.  For now let’s look at how guilt shows up for us.

Why do we feel guilty?

I wouldn’t call guilt a negative emotion, purely because it is an emotion that has a practical purpose just as all the others.  Guilt used appropriately keeps us on the straight and narrow and helps us to help our fellow man.  However, this is not the kind of guilt that we will talk about here today, we’re talking about the guilt that ALWAYS leads to punishment, self-punishment.

These are the recurring themes of guilt I am noticing:

Guilty of having a good experience, good life, good fortune etc.  For some reason many people can feel guilt when good things are happening to them.  It’s a double helping of guilt with a little more sprinkled on top! You feel guilty about the people that are in bad situations as well as feeling guilty because you feel you should be feeling more grateful of your good fortune.  In turn you become a big ball of guilt! Eventually all this guilt will magic away any good fortune you had and you will be left with unsatisfying experiences which, oddly enough, you may feel more comfortable since it’s familiar.

Guilt from emotional blackmail, culture, duty etc.  There are some manipulative people out there that use guilt-tripping others for their own gain.  It appears common between mothers and their sons (well that’s how it seems to me anyway!).  Also, cultural expectations and duties around your gender, race and sibling position can also become a burden that leave you feeling guilty.  Here you are usually torn between what you want to do and what you feel you have to do.  If you do what you want, you rarely do it with 100% joy as you still carry the feelings of guilt and if you do what you have to do you also do not get to experience 100% joy as you are carrying a burden.

Guilt when you unintentionally cause another pain. Guilt when your actions cause someone else to suffer is, in my opinion, the worst and destructive kind. In life difficult decisions need to be made, like leaving a partner, leaving a business partnership or leaving the country even. You may realise that your happiness lies somewhere or with someone else and your sole intention is to bring more peace and joy into your life. However, this involves leaving a dependant partner or loved ones behind. Some of these left behind are less than graceful and make it harder, yes, but it’s your choice to allow them to guilt-trip you.

What tends to happen here is your subconscious starts to find ways for you to physically feel bad, sometimes to the point of illness. It’s almost as if you are justifying causing someone else to feel bad so you can say “Look, I feel bad too, look how much weight I’ve lost or how sick I am”. You feeling bad seems to make you feel better about your guilt-ridden actions. You probably view yourself being seen to benefit from your choice as inappropriate and assume that people will judge you less favourably by you not being seen to suffer.

Guilt over being dependant. This is the kind of guilt that pops up in a relationship when one person supports another. Now, this could be for a number of reasons but the supported partner starts to feel guilty over being supported and feeling like a burden. This can also be destructive as the guilt here serves no positive purpose and fosters feelings like worthlessness and resentment. Vibrating at that low level can only bring you things of that similarly low level.

There are plenty more instances and reasons that people feel guilt over, in the following posts around this I will be looking more at how to lose the guilt and the benefits of doing so. In the meantime, feel free to leave a comment or email me to let me know when and how your guilt surfaces. I am genuinely interested in helping people make big dents in their processes of losing guilt and information is power, so bring it on!

In love, light and abundance x x x

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Nov 01, 2007
Filed under: Growth, Personal Power, Personal development