Forgive and move on
“It’s all about forgiveness, release it and let it go”
Vanessa Williams, Singer and Actress
Following on from recent lessons in attachment and suffering for me, I was taken by Vanessa Williams’ closing words on an E! Entertainment True Hollywood Story.
Her life story from being crowned the 1st black Miss America and then being stripped of her Miss America crown to her roaring success in Ugly Betty, via 2 divorces, 4 kids and her tiring balancing act between family and career. Her words were much more effective than the standard “Dust yourself off and get back in the saddle” as forgiveness is the missing ingredient to effectively moving forward. We may have never heard from Ms Williams again following her Miss America fall from grace but forgiveness is the secret to all she has achieved and where she is now.
Forgiveness is the ability to be grateful for the experience and a release necessary for truly moving forward. Sometimes the person hardest to forgive is you and that stops you from forgiving others involved. Not forgiving leads to the carrying around of old energetic baggage into new situations allowing you to play the hard done by victim. This energetic baggage keeps you stuck in recreating old patterns until you use one of these opportunities to forgive and move on. Forgiveness clears old blocks allowing new opportunities to flow to you and closes off old chapters making room for the new.
Unforgiveness is standing still and in my book if you’re not moving forward you’re moving backward. It gives rise to bitterness, resentment and anger, all indications of being in the past not the present. The present is where it’s at baby!
Forgiveness is about no-one else but you. Why would you want to hold on to old stuff? Does it really make you feel good? Who or what are you not forgiving? Let go of the story, it’s time to move on and allow the good that’s waiting outside the unforgiving block to flow to you. What are the learnings available to you by letting go of the situation? Take it, thank them or you for the learning opportunity that the situation brought and take the necessary actions to release and move forward. Show yourself some love and forgive so you can move towards peace.
In love, light and abundance x x x
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todd:
Thanks for this reminder Lola, nothing more important this time of year than forgiving…I submitted this one to SU, because I liked it!!
Todd
Posted on December 6th, 2007 at 5:49 pm
Albert | UrbanMonk.Net:
Wow! It’s good to see a succinct and correct version of forgiveness. I’ve been stuck in the “wrong” mode of forgiveness for a long time before - my old forgiveness was just - “You’re still wrong, I’m still right, but I’m a good person but I forgive you.”
That was rubbish forgiveness, just egotism in disguise.
Thanks!
Cheers,
Albert | UrbanMonk.Net
Modern personal development, entwined with ancient spirituality.
Posted on December 7th, 2007 at 4:27 am
Lola:
Thanks for your comments guys much appreciated!
Todd - cheers for the Stumble.
Albert - Well done for catching yourself and thanks for using the word “succinct”, working on being more effective with my language by using less words so seems I’m on the right track.
In love, light and abundance x x x
Posted on December 7th, 2007 at 11:54 am
Rich:
Thanks Lola, I’m posting this on my Stumble Upon blog… We all need to be reminded about this important key to life from time to time…
Posted on December 15th, 2007 at 10:47 pm
CG Walters:
“Show yourself some love and forgive…”
Very good, powerful…
thank you, Lola.
Many blessigns,
CG
Posted on December 15th, 2007 at 11:08 pm
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Posted on December 16th, 2007 at 5:50 am
Galba Bright of Tune up your EQ:
Hello Lola:
I enjoyed your article. I agree that forgiving oneself can be very empowering. BTW, I’ve lurked at your blog for some time. I used to live in Streatham before relocating to Jamaica
Thanks also for visiting Tune up your EQ.
Posted on December 16th, 2007 at 2:42 pm
Lola:
Rich - Thanks for the Stumble, much appreciated I love Stumble Upon.
CG Walters - Thanks for the compliment, it is all about you not anyone else after all.
Galba - Thanks for commenting, you are officially no longer a lurker! (Not sure about that term, sounds a bit dodgy). You’ve got a cool site there, I’ll be back to check out more. South London is still as interesting as you left it but it’s months like this I’m sure you’re glad you relocated ay!
In love, light and abundance x x x
Posted on December 16th, 2007 at 5:05 pm
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