Nourishment for your spiritual awakening

Published by Lola

The only thing keeping us from our desires is us - ouch that hurt!  This is not something to beat yourself over the head with but simply to be aware of.  At some stage in our personal development we come up against our subconscious minds’s quest to maintain the status quo, keeping us safe.  Or is it?

Personal development means change and growth.  To your subconscious mind, change and growth are risky concepts which send it into overdrive doing all it can to keep things familiar. Unfortunately (or fortunately) your desires are on the other side of change and growth - no change and growth, no reaching of desires. 

Within my coaching practise I have people who come to me wanting more out of life.  I see how their subconscious has squeezed the life out of them by keeping them safe and small.  It’s like they’re walking down the road so focussed on avoiding stepping on the cracks of the pavement (kerb), that they are missing out on everything else.  If they do step on a crack they have no previous experience to draw upon to handle the experience.

“Ships are safe as long as they stay in the harbour but is that what ships are for?” Victoria Castle

There is a lot of energy being used to avoid risk and drama, not to mention the growth opportunities that are missed out on.  It seems to me that this notion of safety is nothing more than an illusion.  What exactly is it keeping us safe from?

Success

There is an element of risk and failing involved in success.  Through failing we get feedback, we get to learn and move on.  In our quest for safety, we can become so attached to avoiding mistakes and making everything perfect first time that we paralyse ourselves with fear which generally leads to inaction.  Inaction is not part of the recipe for success.

Prosperity

For me staying safe and being poor go hand in hand.  In order to have financial security you have to let go of the notion of hoarding, open to the flow and allow things to come to and from you.  Let them come and go all the while trusting that you will always have enough.  Safety here will almost always lead to poverty (or not far of) and if it doesn’t the enjoyment of the money will be missing.  This is not wealth. 

Happiness

You can’t spend all your energy avoiding pain and be joyful at the same time, they are two completely different things.  Happiness is a choice you make, an inside job.  Worrying about keeping safe keeps you small and not robust enough to handle all that life WILL throw at you and take the growth lessons needed to be joyful. 

Adventure/excitement

What’s the point of life without excitement and adventure? Staying safe is about limiting your range of feelings and responses.  If you imagine a scale of 1-20 with 1 being low energy emotions and 20 being high energy emotions, staying safe will allow you to feel emotions 7 - 14.  Excitement and adventure probably are higher than that, I’d guess 18+.  If you don’t allow yourself to go into the darkness now and then, you cannot experience the light.

Safety is different from security.  Security can only be achieved by breaking free from the illusion of safety.  How do you break free from the illusion of safety?  I will give you some ideas in later on in the illusions series, in the meantime chew on Illusions part two: The deception of work.

In love, light and abundance x x x

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Jan 24, 2008
Filed under: Growth, Personal Power