Resistance: How much do you really want it?
As I write this I am in the pit of resistance! I have committed to dealing with my biggest issue so far and boy does it hurt. I decided to get some good out of this yucky feeling and write about the biggest obstacle to change - RESISTANCE.
Resistance is one of those things that has a lot more power when it’s unnoticed. On this issue I’ve allowed it to win until now. Now I have realised just how much I want what’s on the other side and how important it is not just for me, but for mankind! That might seem a touch dramatic but I am serious, ever since I understood and experienced Marianne Williamson’s words that “as we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others” it gives me an added incentive to free myself from these limits.
“So, how can I turn this crappy feeling into something good?” I thought. Well, I could share it with my readers. So here are the funny little ways I have experienced resistance lately:
Feeling like a victim
Boy oh boy has my inner victim been having a field day lately! Bless her, she doesn’t get out much so she has been taking full advantage of having a free rein. My energy is low so everything seems like a hassle. When I am in this place I am much more focussed on the problem and not the solution or growth opportunity.
Emotional rollercoaster
I reckon I am crying a minimum of 3 times a day. Some of it is linked to feeling like a victim and the rest is release. I’m just rolling with it and letting the tears come when they want. Other times I am in high spirits, empowered and ready to conquer the challenges I am facing. I’m bloody knackered!
Scared to take action/Procrastination
How is it I can spend so much time doing stuff and have nothing to show for it? Although I don’t feel I am procrastinating, I must be as there’s not much output for all this “input”.
Defending the issue
How funny is it that although you don’t feel happy and you know why, if someone else pulls you up on this issue, you feel all protective over it, start justifying explaining and defending it. It’s like you don’t want it but at the same time you are quite fond of it. Quite rightly so, there is a reason you are fond of it, it served you in some way at some time. You’ve been through a lot together but if you want to move forward now it’s time to say goodbye.
Reverting back into your comfort zone
The whole reason you set out on this journey of self-discovery was because you weren’t keen on what your comfort zone had to offer, but when times get tough and you don’t know what to do, it’s familiar territory. That’s also the downside, it’s familiar territory and if you didn’t like it before the chances of liking it now are less since you know more.
Despite the yucky feelings I am aware that old systems are breaking down and new ones are being constructed, the chaos and vulnerability of it all is what is being resisted. Once the new systems bed down all will feel well again…..
…….UNTIL THE NEXT TIME!
In love, light and abundance x x x
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Lorraine Cohen:
Dear Lola
Many folks are facing their stuff big time these days. If you know you are feeling what you have been resisting, the release doesn’t automatically bring peace. Keep your self-care strong my friend and take one step at a time.
I had Rev. Claudia McNeely on my show today and she mentioned having an eBook on Self-Healing that has several releases. I just printed it out to add to my toolbox. The eBook’s free if you want to take a look http://www.askclaudia.com
Lots of love,
Lorraine
http://www.powerfull-living.biz
Posted on April 24th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
MrAchievement.com (Stanley Bronstein):
You need to follow Sir Isaac Newton’s first law of motion.
An object in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted upon by an external force.
Once you get moving, once you get momentum, you will tend to stay in motion. That is how you can overcome your resistance to change.
MrAchievement
Stanley Bronstein
Attorney, CPA, Author, Blogger & Professional Motivational Speaker
Posted on April 25th, 2008 at 2:56 am
G.:
I clicked on this site at random from a huge list of personal development sites, and of course (isn’t that the way) it is just what I am wrestling with. Moving out of my comfort zone, I loved the way you put, starting on a journey, cause I was not “keen on” what my comfort zone had to offer.
Or maybe I have outgrown it, in some inner way, like a bird in a shell, but now I am not sure HOW to get out. Thanks for more food for thought.
Posted on April 25th, 2008 at 2:52 pm
Lola:
Hey guys
These are great comments….
Lorraine - You are so right, the release doesn’t automatically bring peace! I am committed to the unfolding and have been actively focussed on staying present, acceptance and self-care. Thanks for the heads up on Rev. Claudia McNeely, I will check out the ebook and wonload the interview. I find your work very in tune with me so look forward to the insights I will gain from the interview.
Stanley - I am finding action to be a way to overcome resistance, it’s as if the resitatnce has no pwer when you are in action, it’s when you are inactive that it is winning.
G - I love it when my writing has value for people’s current challenges so thansk for that. I hear you on the not sure how to get out so would suggest being OPEN the solution could come from the unlikeliest place. Think of all the fun to be had in finding out how to get out.
In love, light and abundance x x x
Posted on April 27th, 2008 at 6:37 pm