Acceptance: The heart of personal growth
In the last few days I have had my biggest moment of realisation so far and I am truly blown away. I’ve never had more clarity on who I am, where I’m at and where I’m going and boy does it feel GREAT! So what’s brought this on for me? ACCEPTANCE.
What I mean by acceptance is being totally honest, open, curious, non-judgemental and at peace with where I am right here, right now. Not where I want to be sometime in the future, being present to my life and particularly to this issue.
I recently posted about the resistance I was facing dealing with my biggest issue to date and a massive part of dealing with it involved facing up to it. And boy did it hurt to really face up to and ACCEPT where I was with it, but it was worth it. You see I twisted and turned and screamed and shouted and cried and threw tantrums, but when all was said and done the issue was still there. It was like it was taunting me saying “yeah, yeah, yeah, drama, drama, drama. You finished yet? Cos I’m still here!” Ouch
Eventually I sat with it and accepted it, and you know what - BREAKTHROUGH! I’ve heard a million times that attachment is at the root of all suffering and I was extremely attached to this issue, it was running my entire life. So, I kept taking action but was unattached to the action I was taking, it was more about me not being paralysed by fear into inaction. Suddenly the suffering was making room for empowerment. Empowerment? WOW I had always been a victim around this issue, could it really be this simple?
I had been so attached to the problem that I couldn’t see a way out, all the while it was getting bigger and bigger. What I hadn’t been doing was accepting where I was and as a result not facing up to it. I had been hoping for and working towards a better outcome but I now see it wasn’t grounded in reality, I had been taking short-cuts. So the biggest lesson I would like to share with you from my recent growth is:
HOPE WITHOUT ACCEPTANCE IS DENIAL
If that hurts a little, you are probably in denial in an area of your life just as I was. The good news is that acceptance is the 1st step towards resolution and (after a while) feels damn good. Acceptance truly is the heart of personal growth, so show yourself love and choose peace over suffering through acceptance.
In love, light and abundance x x x
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Lorraine Cohen:
Whoo-hoo Lola
What a fabulous awareness. It takes courage and strength to go the distance and walk through things. Bravo!
Acceptance - what a concept. What we really surrender is the struggle!
Blessings,
Lorraine
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Posted on May 1st, 2008 at 7:57 pm
liveforever:
I think you’re right about acceptance, Lola!
Maybe it’s also the case that when we accept where we are, it makes it more likely we can start simply observing ourselves going through our issues, and when we do that, healing can often slip in.
Cheers - Robin
Posted on May 6th, 2008 at 9:08 am
Lola:
GREAT comments guys!
Lorraine - I’ve just re-read my post and whoo-hoo indeed! Thank you, you’re right it does take great courage and strength, and I’m getting such a huge kick out of it too.
Amen to “what we really surrender is the struggle”, those are big and powerful words that have deepened my learning.
Robin - You are soooo right and I love the concept of healing “slipping” in. That fits in with my inspired life of ease and joy.
In love, light and abundance x x x
Posted on May 6th, 2008 at 10:54 am