How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, egg or coffee bean?

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We often hear of the flow of life.  Since we live in a physical world of duality, this means it’s just as natural to ebb as it is to flow.  

In the basic understanding of the natural cycle of ebb and flow, flow feels much more comfortable however for some ebb is a very familar place.  Personally, I have had challenges with both and there are lots of learning available in both, however today we are going to focus on the ebb.

I personally believe that strength of character is determined by how you deal with the ebb and have found the following related story to illustrate differet ways to handle times of ebb:

Are you a carrot, egg or coffee bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.

It seemed that, as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the young woman replied. The mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water - but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened! The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” the mother asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?” Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong but, with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a breakup, or a financial hardship, does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

I’ve definitely tried all 3 and would like to think of myself as a coffee bean now.  What are you?

In love, light and abundance x x x

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4 Responses

  1. Lorraine Cohen:

    I read that story a whole back and loved the metaphor Lola

    Depending on where I’m at, I align more closely with the coffee bean. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

    Have a great weekend

    Cheers,
    Lorraine

    www.powerfull-living.biz

    Posted on July 3rd, 2008 at 9:57 pm

  2. Andrea Hess | Empowered Soul:

    Well, I liked coffee before, but I like it even better now! Terrific teaching story!

    I personally can’t identify with the carrot, but I’ve definitely turned into an egg once or twice. Now I hope to be the coffee bean that creates the coffee I want to see in the world ;-)

    Blessings,
    Andrea

    Posted on July 4th, 2008 at 2:37 am

  3. Ethan @ Self Improvement Mentor:

    That’s a beautiful story. Very meaningful and great metaphors used. All of us should all strive to be the coffee bean. Thanks for the inspiration.

    Posted on July 8th, 2008 at 10:27 am

  4. Lola:

    @Lorraine - Hahaha I hear ya!

    @Andrea - When my hormones are at play I can be a carrot and was an egg for years, coffee much’s better. Loving the play on words.

    @Ethan - The coffee bean definitely has the most joyful experience but I believe people can be how they want. If they are an egg or a carrot they will experience all that the life of a carrot or egg brings.

    In love, light and abundance x x x

    Posted on July 8th, 2008 at 6:02 pm

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