Nourishment for your spiritual awakening

Published by Lola

“Whoever has the greatest command of the language, holds the power.” Susan Johnson

More than “just words”, language is a vital piece in your personal transformation.  Your language reflects the beliefs you hold, sometimes bringing the unconscious and particularly destructive beliefs to the surface and into your awareness.  This in itself is a powerful piece in your development that can propel you forward. 

Words like “but” exclude and words like “and” are more inclusive. Questions starting with “why” tend to send us to our heads and into analysis and words like “always” and “never” leave no room for exceptions or change. 

You can tell a lot about someone by the language they use and there are obvious limiting words like “can’t”, “should” and “try”. If you think you can’t then you probably won’t, when you try you leave yourself a get-out clause and are entertaining failure from the outset and if you think you should, you are being motivated by fear in the form of obligation or avoiding guilt. 

These kind of words are obvious in their limiting nature but there are 2 words I hear often from people which in my opinion are much more limiting.  These 2 words are particularly limiting because they do not appear so at first glance.  The 2 words I am talking about are “I know.”

On the surface “I know” seems farily harmless and people uttering these words appear knowledgeable, however once those words are out of your mouth it’s highly likely that you have stopped listening and taking in any further information.  Sometimes this can be for fear of appearing unknowledgeable and for some even stupid.

2 kinds of knowing

There is knowing and there is knowing. Knowing happens on an intellectual theroetical level and is important, however in my opinion overrated.  This level of knowing has a lot of kudos in our world and we often view these people as intelligent because they have a head full of facts.  Knowing on the other hand is all about living what you know, it’s mixing the knowledge with experience and humility so that you end up with wisdom. 

I remember an experience I had with a lady at my running club, she had taken on a real new lease of life by joining the club and was literally bouncing off the walls.  This lady is a grandmother and it was lovely to literally see her busting through her limits - real inspirational stuff.  One week I went, I was in a particularly bad mood and happy I even turned up.  This lady proceeded to give me a little pep talk about being positive.  You know I actually heard myself say “I know, I’m a Coach” and the tone was soooo superior!  I totally didn’t take in what she was saying as I dismissed it as basic, it might have been basic but I tell you what, I wasn’t doing it so in that moment I didn’t know.  And what’s wrong with getting back to basics?

Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it. Andre Gide

Do you find yourself often saying “I know” in response to people? If you are not living what you claim to know then you do not know.  Your theoretical knowledge is simply not enough, you’ve got to live it and until you are you do not not know.  Knowing also signifies reaching the end of the road, while those who know  know that there is no end and take deep satisfaction in that fact.

You may know about the power of your thoughts and still be living in situtions which are less than favourable to you.  When talking to someone, they may point out some fears or limiting beliefs that are lurking around which you are aware of to some degree but clearly not enough as there is still clearing to do.  You might start your reply with “I know…..” and the minute you say that a chain reaction is set off within you that blocks you from taking in whatever else they have to say.  Behind your simple utterance of “I know” could be “yeah, yeah, yeah I know all about that belief, I’ve had it for years and have been working on it.”  You are assuming that this person has no new insights for you in this area and by default protecting your belief!

That’s crazy!  If you are not living it there is still work to do and your answers can come from absolutely anywhere and ANYONE.  You’ve got to allow yourself to be vulnerable to be successful and that includes letting go of what you think you know.

Let go of your need to prove you know and really listen. Then you will move from knowledge to wisdom, then see how quickly you move to knowing.

What scares you the most about not knowing?

What’s important about appearing knowledgeable to others?

In love, light and abundance x x x

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Nov 20, 2008
Filed under: Growth, Lola, Personal Power, inspiration